I don't necessarily align with all of this psychologist's premises, or the language she uses to explain her theories, but I do believe that it's quite possible for ANYONE who seems one way and claims to be that way, can operate via another self-state in a manner that completely defies the original claims of self-definition.
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/why-male-allies-abuse-women_us_5af35072e4b04d3b2c903373